As part of the process of starting this new site and melding it with my previous writing, coaching, and websites, I thought it would be fun to share some older but relevant posts with you. Think of it as a bit of “Throwback Thursday” feature.
Change can be a beautiful, life-fulfilling, energizing thing. In fact, it might be exactly what you are looking for and need in your life. Change can be the thing that ignites a spark in you, finally gets you to reach your big goals, and allows your life to soar to places higher than you ever thought possible.
But it can also be a scary thing.
In today’s Throwback Thursday feature, I’ll talk about why change feels so scary and share 3 steps to release the fear and make it happen.
Change means excitement and adventure and can fill you with a sense of purpose and accomplishment. It can also appear terrifying, fill you with uncertainty, be uncomfortable, and make you run screaming back to the comfort of where you started from.
And yet, this discomfort, this nervousness, this butterfly-in-your-belly, this vibration is exactly what is
needed to make change happen. Change is what gets you off automatic pilot and wakes you back up.
This is something I talk about frequently in my barre and Pilates classes. The moves we do are sometimes very small, but the intensity is so big, that your body starts shaking and your legs quiver. This is the place where you usually rest and back out, because that shake must mean you need a break.
But truthfully, this shaking means you are making changes. This is the regular stuff getting tired and the new muscles, cells, and tissues firing up to move you through.
This is change and it happens often throughout life.
How many times have you been on the track to making changes – finally getting healthy, ditching your lackluster career, or moving on from a bad romance – when change hits, you get that nervous feeling, and you go back to the same old same old? If you are honest, it has probably happened more often than not.
I watched a video today with Todd Herman and Marie Forleo who explain this in great detail. He also explains how our brains tell us “Yay” or “Nay” when we are on the path to change. The reason is resistance – the same reason your muscles shake during your barre workout. That resistance can make you feel awesome and accomplished, or scared and defeated.
A scared brain will feels tuck, bored, and look for safety. A scared brain wants to stop the change and go back to what was comfortable. An exhilarated brain finds growth, confidence, and adventure with the change.
Scared or exhilarated?
Bored or adventurous?
Stuck or in the midst of growth?
Searching for safety or confident and calm?
Me? I’ll take the second part any day.
Here are some tips to help you get through change, no matter what kind:
1) When you feel stuck and like you’ve hit a wall, look back on the changes you have made already. It can be easy to overlook how far we have come and only look at how much we still have to go. Change takes tome and it is the time that makes it stick. Instead of looking at the huge path in front of you, remember how much you have already done and embrace it.
2) When you feel bored or checked out, change your perspective. Instead of resisting and saying “This is so lame”, find a sense of adventure. Go bigger. Laugh at yourself. Get out of your comfort zone and you’ll find more than you ever knew was there waiting for you.
3) When you feel insecure and need a safety net, find your inner courage. Tell yourself you can do anything that you put your mind to. Look back and see all the amazing things you have done so far on your journey and fill yourself up with confidence you need to carry on.
Change can be scary, but it doesn’t have to be! Let go of the resistance and embrace it. Make you change a beautiful, lasting piece of your journey.
What is your biggest struggle when making changes? How do you usually overcome them or what makes you back down? Which of the three steps can you take today to make your change stick? Leave it in the comments below and seal that goodness in!
If you are looking to make changes and work through these three steps, join me for 21 Days to Flourish, coming up in the next month. I’ll help you take the fear and resistance out of the changes you make by mapping out your with daily support, a community of like-minded people, and step by step techniques to make the changes stick.
In 21 Days, you’ll find your inner most confidence, experience lasting growth in all areas of your life, and recapture a sense of youthful adventure. All from the comfort of your home, on your time. Take a leap, make a change. Won’t you join me?
“And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom” – Anais Nin
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Previously posted on The House of Healthy.